Date Night with The Husband

It has been just about 2 years since my husband and I have been able to indulge in a date night together. For the past 2 years, it has been all about baby and we rarely get to have any alone time for one another. With our soon to be addition of baby number two, a kind soul at the church we go to offered to watch our little one so we could get some alone time and although hesitant – I knew it was very much needed for us.

Before having my first son, my husband and I would always have a date night. Enjoying each others company and allowing for romance to sweep us off our feet was the norm. Then our son came along and our priorities shifted – our love did not stop for one another but I do think it left us with a feeling of longing for one another. I know I missed having all of my husband’s attention and I know he felt the same way in some instances.

I was finally able to wear a purse that was not a diaper bag or that had any sippy cups and diapers in it. It’s the little things that make you feel so free. My husband opened the car door for me, which is something I completely forgot he used to do, but made me feel so very special. We went to dinner at a wonderful sushi restaurant and were able to actually enjoy a meal without having to pick up food pieces off the floor and asking my toddler to calm down and stop screaming. It was liberating, yet something was missing.

The loud noise in the backseat yelling for cookies and car ride snacks was missing. My husband from time to time would jokingly say, “Hmm, is he knocked out back there, did he fall asleep or something?” We brushed off the feeling and continued on about our plans.

All the while enjoying ourselves, we realized how much we missed our son. He had become such a prominent part of our lives, although sometimes very disruptive and stressful – he was the little light that was missing. Because we became a family when he was born, and although my husband and I miss having each other’s full attention at times – we have morphed into something so much greater.

I think it’s still very important to have a date night with your spouse, not ONLY to keep your marriage healthy, full of love, and to keep the romance going. But also, so you can realize the blessings in your life. Having children is not easy, some days you want to rip your hair out and just run away and lock yourself in the bathroom. But the joy and love that comes with them is so irreplaceable.

God calls us to keep our marriages strong. To love your spouse before ourselves and it felt good to do that. I guess I am just so grateful to be doing marriage with someone that is on the same page as me. Someone I don’t have to convince to love our children and be a part of their every day moments. Someone who is equally yoked as myself, shares the same desire to love Jesus and be a servant of God.  We are not perfect, but our love for each other feels perfect. I feel I have so much to be grateful to God for, so undeserving of all this love and all the blessings he sends our way.

When it was finally time to pick our son back up, I think we both raced each other out of the car to see who got to the door faster. I left the car door open with my purse hanging out! As we saw his beautiful little face through the house mirror, as he threw his hands up in the air and gave his welcome “HI” – I think my heart melted. I live for those moments. Those moments where finally seeing you is the best thing in the world to them. My 35 weeks pregnant and hurting butt picked his heavy little self up and could not stop kissing his face. Like the first day he was born, always showered in kisses.

Summertime fun in style at Thornton A. Sullivan Park

In Washington state, you have to put up with a lot of rain for the majority of the year. So best believe that as soon as the sun come out, everyone comes out to enjoy its beautiful rays of sunshine.

It was a hot, sunny day last Sunday afternoon and me and my husband were trying to decide if we were going to go out and do something. I was missing California and its beautiful beaches and poolside homes. I really wanted to get out and enjoy the sun next to a body of cool water. I don’t know what it is about the summertime that makes my body just crave being in the water like no other. Must be the California girl in me 🙂

So I went on my trusty Yelp app and came across Thornton A. Sullivan Park in Everett, Washington. I saw that it was a family friendly environment and we decided to give it a try.

Upon arriving, we noticed that there was ample parking space with a lot of friendly people that came with their families. I was already excited as me and my husband love the family feel, especially because we have a lot of family in California. We got out of the car and to the right of us was a huge playground for children with picnic tables and chairs for barbecuing and gatherings. They also had bathrooms that were not porter potties, which makes a huge difference to me. The scenery on our way to the water was just gorgeous, with the usual Washington trees and greenery. Then we got to the beach area, boy was I in love! Soft, sand at my feet with minimal rocks took me back to Cali. My son was so excited to get in that water and what was really comforting is that there were so many children there for him to enjoy the company of.

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I was a little bummed that I had not brought my bathing suit as I love to get in the water but momma still hasn’t gotten herself a maternity bathing suit. Instead, I opted to wear my newly received “Wifey” t-shirt that I had gotten from this company I found on Amazon called Awkward Styles . They offer a variety of novelty graphic tees, and have a huge selection. So I decided to give them a try because I can never say no to a graphic t-shirt that’s offered at a good price! I love its fit and cut, the supplied t-shirt is from Next Level Apparel – which previously being from the garment and promotional products industry, I can tell you is a good quality t-shirt. I can definitely say that I will be wearing this shirt often, and will probably re-purchase from the company because they do offer a quality tee at a reasonable price – which is everything to me!

Overall, the atmosphere at this park/ lake was very friendly and family oriented. I will definitely be coming back with my family and friends this summer and bringing a bathing suit this time so I can enjoy the sun!

 

 

Mom of Boys!

So on Friday we confirmed that baby# 2 is a boy! We are ecstatic! I never imagined that I would be a mom of boys but I am so excited for this adventure! My mind wanders and I can imagine myself being that sporty mom that takes her boys to their athletic sport team events. Going on family sporting events and signing up for those mud runs. Now that I think about it, I feel like I would be the perfect mom for boys, being that I am quite sporty and tom boyish since childhood. I was the girl that would play sports with all the boys in the block and even played co-ed football in high school.

I feel that God chose this for me because He knew how I would thrive guiding my boys. Sure, there will be moments where I fail because I am not perfect. Sometimes, it scares me to think that I am going to have two rambunctious little boys tearing up my living room, but I am so excited for the love that we will share, and the future memories.

Being a mother, for me has brought out so many different emotions. It has been a time where I have doubted myself the most; my actions, my feelings, my existence. I second guess the decisions I make because I want to make sure I am making the best decisions for me and my family. Always thinking back to myself, “Was that the best decision for my boys?” And I’m sure all mothers feel this way sometimes.

To think, only a few years ago – I was so hopeful to be a mother. I didn’t think I would ever get the chance to be. Then I was pregnant with my first son, and when he was born I felt myself so blessed. I never thought I would ever receive another gift so amazing. Then little Jackson surprised us and emerged in a very stressful time. But I believe he was gifted to me to bring me not only extra joy – but I feel it was a way for God to reassure me that I was right on track. He was reassuring me that I was doing a good job, even though I had been feeling like I was failing at life- He was reassuring me that I was doing just what I was supposed to be doing.

 

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.

-Psalm 127:3

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