It has been just about 2 years since my husband and I have been able to indulge in a date night together. For the past 2 years, it has been all about baby and we rarely get to have any alone time for one another. With our soon to be addition of baby number two, a kind soul at the church we go to offered to watch our little one so we could get some alone time and although hesitant – I knew it was very much needed for us.
Before having my first son, my husband and I would always have a date night. Enjoying each others company and allowing for romance to sweep us off our feet was the norm. Then our son came along and our priorities shifted – our love did not stop for one another but I do think it left us with a feeling of longing for one another. I know I missed having all of my husband’s attention and I know he felt the same way in some instances.
I was finally able to wear a purse that was not a diaper bag or that had any sippy cups and diapers in it. It’s the little things that make you feel so free. My husband opened the car door for me, which is something I completely forgot he used to do, but made me feel so very special. We went to dinner at a wonderful sushi restaurant and were able to actually enjoy a meal without having to pick up food pieces off the floor and asking my toddler to calm down and stop screaming. It was liberating, yet something was missing.
The loud noise in the backseat yelling for cookies and car ride snacks was missing. My husband from time to time would jokingly say, “Hmm, is he knocked out back there, did he fall asleep or something?” We brushed off the feeling and continued on about our plans.
All the while enjoying ourselves, we realized how much we missed our son. He had become such a prominent part of our lives, although sometimes very disruptive and stressful – he was the little light that was missing. Because we became a family when he was born, and although my husband and I miss having each other’s full attention at times – we have morphed into something so much greater.
I think it’s still very important to have a date night with your spouse, not ONLY to keep your marriage healthy, full of love, and to keep the romance going. But also, so you can realize the blessings in your life. Having children is not easy, some days you want to rip your hair out and just run away and lock yourself in the bathroom. But the joy and love that comes with them is so irreplaceable.
God calls us to keep our marriages strong. To love your spouse before ourselves and it felt good to do that. I guess I am just so grateful to be doing marriage with someone that is on the same page as me. Someone I don’t have to convince to love our children and be a part of their every day moments. Someone who is equally yoked as myself, shares the same desire to love Jesus and be a servant of God. We are not perfect, but our love for each other feels perfect. I feel I have so much to be grateful to God for, so undeserving of all this love and all the blessings he sends our way.
When it was finally time to pick our son back up, I think we both raced each other out of the car to see who got to the door faster. I left the car door open with my purse hanging out! As we saw his beautiful little face through the house mirror, as he threw his hands up in the air and gave his welcome “HI” – I think my heart melted. I live for those moments. Those moments where finally seeing you is the best thing in the world to them. My 35 weeks pregnant and hurting butt picked his heavy little self up and could not stop kissing his face. Like the first day he was born, always showered in kisses.