Confessions of a Stay at home Mom

I used to always be aware of time. I’ve always liked to schedule my time to try and get the most out of my day. A typical day for me in the past would start with: getting ready for work, preparing lunch for my husband and I, feeding all my animals, and then off I was to my commute for work. Work from 9-5, off of work, drive to pick up hubby, and off we were on our commute back home. This was very single day, the same routine.  And then there was the weekend. Sounds kind of boring when you have an unfulfilling job and you feel like you’re lacking a purpose.

Now, I am a stay at home mother and although I have finally found the most fulfilling job that gave me a purpose – I still run in to obstacles. In a previous post I went on to describe my experiences with my “fussy baby” and although I love my new job, I can’t help to sometimes feel unappreciated. It seems to me that society really praises women who chose to put their careers before their family. Maybe it’s because not too long ago, women were not allowed to have careers? I mean, more power to you if you are pursuing your dreams – this is not a women’s bashing post what-so-ever, I’m just kind of tired of the misconceptions people have regarding what a stay at home mother really is.

I can remember a conversation I had with a friend a few years back; we were discussing our futures and aspirations. She went on to list off all the possible career choices she was considering and what her dreams were. When it got to me, I had a list too – one that I had put together because people expect these types of answers. But instead I chose to just be honest and say what was in my heart. “I just want to have a family and be a mother.” Well, the response on her face alone shamed me but when she finally uttered the words “that’s it?” I kind of felt embarrassed and went on to list off a few other career choices that were within the major that I was studying.

Now a days, we pay people to watch our children so we can go out to the world and pursue other things; careers. Some people don’t really have much of a choice and for financial reasons, they have to get jobs in order to provide for their families and there is no shame in that. There’s no shame in any of it, but why do I have to be ashamed for what I love to do?

When I was a working woman with a career, I did not find much fulfillment in it but obviously I had to work for financial reasons. I also wanted to make sure I had a strong working record to build a strong resume. All things I have accomplished, but didn’t fulfill me.

I know on most days, it’s hard for me to get through the judgments of other – what I like to call “Mean Moms.” They seem to nit pit at every decision that you make, or one up you every time you think you did something really great for your kid.

I think what’s important is to do what is right for you and your family. Whether that is to stay at home with your child or choosing to work – just own it. And don’t let others make you feel like what you are doing is wrong. No one lives in your shoes; no one knows your fears, your struggles, and your financial situation.

Just keep on rocking that mom life you’re living!

~G

5 thoughts on “Confessions of a Stay at home Mom”

  1. I can totally relate. I completed my BA and was thrilled to finish my undergrad education, but knew I wouldn’t be utilizing it for a little bit. I knew I wanted to be a stay-at-home mom. Luckily my husband supported this want of mine, and made a good enough living on his own for me to pursue it.

    I have been shamed by certain people, including “good” friends of mine by telling me that it won’t a set good example for my child, or she didn’t think I was “that type of person”, and “didn’t I want to do more with my life?”.

    I love my son and can’t imagine someone else telling me all the wonderful things he does. I work very hard at being a SAHM and wouldn’t trade it for the world. My son will only be this young once. I will have many years to work at a job or pursue my career goals, but time with my child is fleeting. I try to cherish every moment. This is what’s right for me at this time in my life, and I don’t feel any shame for it.

  2. I definitely agree with you Troy, yoga is greatly good treatment for back pains. I’ve been doing work out to stay fit and healthy. Thank you the post! Absolutely inoamrftive.

  3. Great advice! Though my kiddies were never “carrier tr2#&edni82a1;, your honest and humorous reviewMakes me want one! I look forward to your next posts!

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